Anchored and Secure

When I pay attention to my reactions to others, I can learn something. It happens in actual, personal conversations, but also on social media. Something is said, something is posted, or something is done, and I want to react or respond.

There are times when I feel as if I need to prove myself. Sometimes I respond in order to promote myself (or my opinion or my way of thinking). Other times I want to defend myself, as if I am being attacked or my "tribe" is being threatened.

These three responses are seldom the overflow of love, grace, compassion, wisdom, or humility. Often they are driven by shame or fear. When I want to offer a forceful response I am often concerned with being right, being strong, or looking good. Heaven forbid others view me as weak, or incapable, or deficient in any way.

Here are two helpful verses from Scripture. If I keep them in front of me during tense interactions they may save me from hurting others or acting inappropriately.

"This I know, that God is for me." (Psalm 56:9)

"If God is for us who can be against us." (Romans 8:31)

In Christ, I am totally anchored and secure. I already have all that I need. Ultimately, there is nothing for me to prove, nothing to promote, and nothing to defend. When I stand firmly in that place, where I know that I am safe and loved by God, I am able to love others and respond wisely. It is a place of peace and strength.

I am not saying we should never respond or reply. However, when I examine my motives first, I can be guided in how to respond in a helpful way. A vigorous response, aimed at putting someone else in their place, is often an indication that I may have work to do in my own heart.

Look at some of your recent interactions where you have reacted loudly, harshly, or strongly. Maybe there is something for you to learn. Regardless of what someone else says or does, in Christ you are always anchored and secure. Let that truth rest on your heart and guide your interactions.

A Different Kind of Love

Devotional Video
Mt. 5:43-47

The Ripple Effect

On Saturday, August 25 I will participate in a conference dealing with the opioid crisis and addiction. The event, which is hosted by the KY Baptist Convention, is aimed at encouraging individuals impacted by this crisis and equipping those who want to more effectively engage this issue. We are hopeful that many will attend and leave with a better understanding of the struggle, as well as a grasp on possible solutions.

As a pastor, and proponent of the gospel, I am thoroughly convinced that there is hope for those struggling with addiction. It comes, by God's grace, through faith in Jesus Christ. And while the gospel is the ultimate solution for all the brokenness of our world, including that which comes with addiction, the impact of the opioid crisis is multifaceted. It is complicated and there has been a tremendous ripple effect in our communities.

Consider the following peripheral aspects of this epidemic:

* Children of those struggling with addiction are always wounded emotionally and sometimes suffer physical abuse. Not to mention the babies who are born addicted and those left to grow up without parents that have died from drug overdose. Grandparents and others often step in to assist. Schools are filled with children struggling to learn, even as they are dealing with trauma and stigma associated with drug use in their homes. Teachers and guidance counselors are on the front lines of this tragedy. It is bound to take a toll on them as well.

* Our healthcare system is stretched to the limits. The physical fallout that comes from drug abuse is significant. Hospitals and doctor's offices see the lasting effects of this crisis. Not to mention the chronic health issues that are sometimes associated with sharing needles. Plus, there are a growing number of overdose victims that enter hospitals daily. This has a tremendous impact on the first responders who are dealing with dozens of overdoses every week. All of these factors affect not only those using drugs, but those caring for them and the systems in place to provide aid and support. We must care for those who are hurting and improve these systems that are currently overwhelmed.

* There are some with legitimate health concerns that find themselves caught in the crossfire. Dozens of clinics and physicians erred in dispensing and prescribing prescription opioids. The crisis spiraled out of control. Many became addicted. Pain clinics have been shut down, often for good reason. However, there are still individuals trying to manage actual pain. Pharmacists and physicians are trying to navigate this crisis with wisdom and serve their patients.

* Some (not all) struggling with addiction turn to crime. Although some of this crime is nonviolent, the impact is felt by family members as well as complete strangers who become victims. Add to this the terrible violence that is nearly always associated with those who are selling drugs. Shootings and gang activity are prevalent especially in areas where drugs are being bought and sold. Any veteran police officer will testify to how all of these things has increased their caseload over the last ten years. It has become a cliché already, but it still holds true, "we can not arrest our way out of this crisis." Still, law enforcement officers are among those on the streets daily trying to help combat this epidemic.

* While it is difficult to quantify, the job market is certainly negatively impacted by drug abuse. Some employers will have difficulty finding workers who can pass a drug test and have the capacity to function in the workplace. Companies in this situation find it harder to compete, let alone thrive and grow. Those dealing with addiction issues have a harder time finding and keeping a job. It is a vicious cycle for both parties. Difficult economic times, poor decisions by some, many others feeling the impact.

There is no single solution to make the mess go away. When someone who has struggled with substance abuse is transformed by the gospel, that is reason to rejoice! And praise God this is happening in churches, treatment centers and recovery groups over and over again. However, there are layers of complication and tragedy that will not go away overnight. This is a big issue that will take much time, urgent prayer and risky love if we hope to see it diminished. We must not lose sight of the fact that those battling addiction are human beings, made in the image of God, valuable to him and worthy of our compassion.

Just as there is a ripple effect from destructive actions, there is a ripple effect from gracious actions. While some are "cursing the darkness" caused by this epidemic, others are lighting candles and pressing into that darkness. The skeptic may say, "I didn't cause this mess, I'm not going to clean it up." That attitude is self-centered and short-sighted. A community effort is necessary if a community is going to experience recovery.

Recovery is possible. There is hope. What will you do to engage this issue and cause a ripple effect of God's love and grace?

Stop Complaing. Do Something.

I see and hear so much complaining. There are a myriad of problems and no community is immune. It is depressing and disturbing. Some people believe things can't change or that only government agencies are able to bring about change. Others are proactive, looking for ways to do something about the issues facing their communities. What about you - how can you make an impact, become part of the solution?

One person can make a difference in their community! Things won't change, there will not be a shift in the status quo, if everyone stays inside watching TV or surfing social media. It will take action, effort, creativity and intentionality.

Here are 16 simple ideas. Find a couple of them that excite you and go make a difference:

* Volunteer weekly at a local ministry or non-profit - every community has a senior center, library, soup kitchen, boys/girls club or another place where you can serve others. One or two hours of free labor a week can make a big difference for an organization on a small budget.

* Join a local organization that is already actively working to improve the community - Rotary Club, Lions Club, youth sports league, women's club. The structure is already in place, all they need are more people to execute their plans.

* Identify neighbors who need assistance and offer to help - cut grass, do car repairs, offer rides to the grocery or appointments, provide a meal. Yes, I'm suggesting you actually engage with others on your street. Find out how they are getting along and offer to assist where there are needs.

* Organize a group to pick up litter, plant flowers, cut grass or trim weeds in neglected areas - trash and overgrown areas make a neighborhood look...bad. With a bit of effort you could be part of adding beauty and community pride to a neglected corner.

* Plan a neighborhood cookout or block party - get to know your neighbors. Its about building relationships, risking and inviting human connection. It's not complicated.

* Support local artists and musicians - attend concerts, gallery openings, craft fairs. Art and music bring joy. Be part of promoting those who have talents to share and take time to enjoy these wonderful blessings.

* Shop local and encourage entrepreneurs - nearly everyone has a sense of nostalgia about the corner grocery, local hardware or small town diner. A few still exist and there are people who want to bring them back. Find them and give them your business. These places often serve as neighborhood gathering spots that cultivate a greater sense of community.

* Give financially to local non-profits and ministries -  support those who are helping the hurting and struggling. Soup kitchens, crisis pregnancy centers, health clinics, addiction recovery centers, homeless shelters, all usually run on very tight budgets. Be generous. Bless and enable others who are doing the hard work that you are not necessarily equipped or able to do.

* Get moving - Go outside more. Picnic in the park, sit on your front porch, take a walk, attend a local sporting event (even if you have no kids playing). This is an opportunity to meet others, enjoy the various aspects of your community and get some exercise. Our society has become very sedentary.

* Deliver a meal or dessert to the fire house or police station – a simple expression of love and gratitude for those who respond to emergencies, protect and serve in your community.

* Attend city council meetings - get involved in ad hoc committees that relate to your areas of expertise and passion. This is a great way to stay informed on local issues and become an active participant in finding solutions for concerns in the community.

* Visit a local nursing home or retirement community – take flowers, visit, play music, participate in games or activities. These residents are often overlooked, isolated and sometimes without any family. Your presence will be a blessing to them and your perspective will likely be changed.

* Participate in a Neighborhood Watch program - one concern in many communities is crime. Vigilant and watchful neighbors who communicate with one another and law enforcement can be a helpful deterrent to criminals. It also promotes connection, unity and support within the community.

* Mentor a younger person - share your talents and expertise. Invest in the next generation. You can pass on valuable knowledge and experience. Connect with a local guidance counselor, youth pastor or scout master to identify young people who might benefit from learning a skill in which you excel - music, auto mechanics, carpentry, sewing, knitting etc.

*  Rock your town – painting rocks, hiding and finding them is a real thing. It is a way to express creativity and spread kindness and positivity. It is a unique activity for kids and adults. Social media provides an outlet to share photos and connect with others who are already involved. Many communities have "Rocking" social media pages set up to share photos and ideas.

* Look for the lonely - we all need friends. Pay attention to those around you, or make a special effort to seek out others, especially those who live alone. Friendship, the presence of others who care, is a powerful tool to increase joy and meaning in our lives.

As Matthew West said, "Its time for us to Do Something."

Hope for My Hometown

St. Albans, WV is situated at the confluence of the Kanawha and Coal Rivers.

(awesome photo by Joey Puterbaugh)

Several years ago I started a Facebook group page for my hometown, St. Albans, WV. I did it on a whim and invited all my high school friends to join. Within a couple of weeks the group had 200 members. I was shocked. Today there are over 9,500 members and counting. That's nearly as large as the current population of the town. The group page is a place to share memories and catch up on local events. A significant portion of the membership no longer live there. Like me, they want to remain connected to the place that still has a piece of their heart.

The group page is often a source of angst for me, and I suspect it is for many of the group members as well. The fond and pleasant memories are occasionally interrupted by present day turmoil. Tempers flare, divergent opinions are expressed, harsh words are used...all from behind an electronic device and little good is accomplished.

You see, drugs and crime have become part of everyday life in my hometown (like many in our country). At times these things seem to overshadow everything else. Its bad and people are dying. The drug epidemic has impacted me personally. However, I'm certain the solution is not ranting on a social media page.

Many who are caught in the terrible cycle of addiction don't believe there is another way to live. They are physically enslaved by the toxins and emotionally overwhelmed by a series of bad choices. Add to that the stigma and shame heaped upon them by others, who scratch their heads in dismay at so much tragic mess. On a practical level there is no quick fix or simple solution. Government and law enforcement can assist, but they do not hold the ultimate remedy. Treatment facilities, community support groups and early intervention can also play a helpful role. But, it is a messy and complicated situation that brings pain and leaves many suffering.

Hope, healing and freedom are possible. Ultimately these are found in God's love, that was demonstrated in the life, death and resurrection of Jesus. Furthermore, if and when the people who claim to know Jesus will risk graciously extending that love, to those who are struggling, perhaps a visible impact will be made. One life at a time. In one small hometown at a time.

P.S. There are good things happening in My Hometown like this, this and this, as well as more I don't have time to mention.

Love and Marriage

Generally we don't make a huge deal about Valentine's Day at our house. Except I love any excuse to eat chocolate. This week my lovely and talented wife and I participated in a panel discussion about love and marriage at my daughter's school. It was part of their chapel program for grades 7-12. It was fun. It also gave me hope.

There were three other couples on the panel, we were the oldest. I resonated with much of what others shared. So while my circumstances may be different, I'm not alone in dealing with the joys and struggles that come with marriage. Two broken people coming together, through thick and thin, better and worse, plenty and want. It's hard. It's good. It's messy. It's joyful. It's painful. I'm so thankful for the woman I married and every experience along the way. I definitely "out kicked my coverage!"

A couple hundred kids heard great insights today in chapel. They heard about the grace and love of God, that is reflected in marriage. They heard about God's design for sex. They heard about His forgiveness for those who stray from that design. They were challenged to use their voices to ask questions and set boundaries. This struck me because when I was their age I didn't really get these messages clearly. So I'm hopeful that a few were impacted by our discussion.

This experience was a great reminder for me of the beauty of marriage and the power of the gospel. It has caused me to want to fight for a stronger relationship with my wife. I want to model what a healthy marriage looks like for my daughters.

Below are the lyrics to a song about relationships, especially marriage. You can watch/listen here. Let me encourage you to press into the hard things, celebrate the joys and struggles and know that there is grace for all of it.

If We're Honest

Truth is harder than a lie
The dark seems safer than the light
And everyone has a heart that loves to hide
I'm a mess and so are you
We've built walls nobody can get through
Yeah, it may be hard, but the best thing we could ever do, ever do

Bring your brokenness, and I'll bring mine
'Cause love can heal what hurt divides
And mercy's waiting on the other side
If we're honest
If we're honest

Don't pretend to be something that you're not
Living life afraid of getting caught
There is freedom found when we lay our secrets down at the cross, at the cross

So bring your brokenness, and I'll bring mine
'Cause love can heal what hurt divides
And mercy's waiting on the other side
If we're honest
If we're hones

It would change our lives
It would set us free
It's what we need to be

So bring your brokenness, and I'll bring mine
'Cause love can heal what hurt divides
And mercy's waiting on the other side
If we're honest
If we're honest
If we're honest

Songwriters: FRANCESCA BATTISTELLI, JEFF PARDO, MOLLY E. REED

© Warner/Chappell Music, Inc., CAPITOL CHRISTIAN MUSIC GROUP

Our Father

Have you really given much thought to the truth about God as your Father? Regardless of our perspective on our earthly father, we have the best of all blessings in the Sovereign as our Father. The implications of this truth are almost staggering when we allow them to sink in.

Here are just a few:

* Relationship - close family relationship with our Creator, all the privileges of family
* Love & Care - He loves and cares for us as His children, this is so powerful
* Discipline - the fairest and most helpful guidance and instruction, desiring the best for us
* Security - He will never abandon His children or disown us, we are heirs with Christ

J. I. Packer rings this bell so clearly when he writes in Knowing God, "What is a Christian? The question can be answered in many ways, but the richest answer I know is that a Christian is one who has God as Father." [emphasis added]

Dear Christian, if you are indeed a follower of Jesus Christ by faith, you have Almighty God as your Father. That is a marvel and a joy.

"See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know Him." 1 John 3:1

Amen!

Fireproof - A Movie for your Heart

My wife and I attended a preview showing of the new movie Fireproof. It was made by the same folks that produced The Flywheel and Facing the Giants. Actually, all three movies were produced as a ministry by a church in Georgia. The free screening here in Louisville was sponsored by The Family Foundation. The film will hit theaters nationwide in late September.

This is a movie that will stir you deeply. Its primary message is about love and marriage but, it is not just a movie for married couples. The leading character in the film, played well by Kirk Cameron, is a fireman in a marriage that is being torn apart by self indulgence, pride and stubbornness. These are tendencies we all must battle from time to time. Furthermore, we all have relationships that suffer when we fall into these traps.

The film is honest about sin and its consequences as well as forgiveness and the hope found in Jesus Christ. The gospel is clearly presented in a way that will move your heart. I laughed out loud on several occasions and I cried more than once.

I will be very surprised if the mainstream media even blinks at this movie. However, if Christians get behind this project I will not be surprised if it doesn't do very respectable at the box office. (btw Facing the Giants made $10 million with only $100,000 production budget) Let me encourage you to view the trailer and share this information with others. If you are a pastor you should promote this film to your congregation. We seldom have an opportunity to support a movie that gets nationwide exposure and has such a solid message. Marriage is under attack in our culture and often viewed as a useless and antiquated institution. Anyone that sees this film will never think that way again.